Wedding planning is without a doubt one of the most stressful projects you will ever undertake.  Who knew planning your wedding would have so many moving parts – and include such a huge amount of people.

You have chosen your bridal party and have checked out our ‘wedding planning timeline’ so you know what needs done and when, but figuring out who does what can be confusing.

Besides generally helping you out whenever you hit a crisis, the individuals in your wedding party do have some basic duties.  We have put together a list of the main players and what they are traditionally responsible for, to help you delegate.  Our list is available in a downloadable pdf here.  Print off and give to your bridal party so everyone know what they are responsible for,  take the opportunity to share some of the responsibility and ease some of the stress.

Bride & Groom – joint responsibilities

  • decide on budget
  • choose a date and venue
  • meet with officiant to discuss details
  • design your invitations
  • select flowers
  • pick the band
  • choose photographer
  • write than-you letters
  • write vows
  • agree on food/drink
  • book honeymoon
  • gifts for parents
  • hire wedding car
  • buy wedding rings
  • buy thank you gifts for helpers


  • select bridesmaids and maid of honour
  • order flowers for hair
  • shop for wedding dress and jewellery
  • buy gifts for bridesmaids
  • get present for the groom
  • arrange hair and make-up trial


  • choose best man and ushers
  • buy grooms outfit
  • arrange best man’s and ushers attire
  • buy a gift for your bride
  • secure marriage licence and pay for officiant
  • prepare your speech

Best Man

  • organise stag party
  • co-ordinate outfits and buttonholes with the groom and ushers
  • get the groom to the ceremony and organise transport for the newly married couple
  • supervise ushers
  • witness and sign the wedding register
  • write and give speech
  • escort maid of honour after the ceremony
  • takes care of payments on the day
  • keeps the groom calm
  • return grooms and ushers outfits to rental shop after the wedding

Maid of Honour

  • plan hen party
  • help with wedding dress and bridesmaids dress shopping
  • assist with writing wedding invitations
  • organise the other bridesmaids
  • help the bride get ready and calm her nerves
  • witness and sign the wedding register
  • arrange brides veil and train throughout
  • holds brides flowers when rings and vows are exchanged


  • help organise stag party
  • distribute Order of Service at ceremony
  • give corsages to family members before they are seated
  • direct guests to their seats
  • escort bridesmaids after ceremony
  • decorate the newlyweds car


  • help with making and distributing the wedding favours
  • help organise hen night
  • decorate the wedding venue
  • run errands for the bride
  • be one of the first on the dancefloor and encourage other to join in
  • walk down the aisle before the maid of honour

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